Do You Know?: 5 Things I Learned From Going Off Hospice

About a year ago, Mom went on hospice care and I wrote about the assumptions people make when you say someone is in hospice. At that time, I knew Mom had time left with us, but I did not really think we had another year together. I am glad we have had so much time and it looks like we will continue to. However, this means that she has been taken off of hospice and I wanted to share with you 5 things I have learned from this experience.

Technically to qualify for hospice, the doctors have to evaluate you and believe that you have six months or less to live. You are reevaluated every three months in order to get "recertified" to remain on hospice. However, to put it bluntly, if you are not dying fast enough, you get taken off hospice. This means that even though your loved one is dying from their illness and you can not care for them alone, you now loose a lot of the help that allowed you to care for your loved one 24 hours a day.

1. Do you know all the things you loose from going off of hospice? You no longer have aids to give baths, a nurse on-call when emergencies arise, a nurse who checks for changes in the patient regularly. You loose all the supplies like the diapers, bed pads, wheelchair, mouth swabs, pillows, wipes, ointment, and more. This makes a big difference for two reasons, one is that some of these items are hard to find in the regular world, and second the cost for these items is outrageous and not covered by Medicare anymore once you go off of hospice.


2. Do you know how hard it is to find real adult diapers? Not Depends or something like that. Adult diapers that actually hold full amounts of liquid and solids, that open up like a diaper, and are made of materials that do not induce chafing and bed sores. It is really hard. Even the medical supply stores do not have the hospital grade undergarments needed for bed-bound people. It took weeks to find these for Mom.   


3. Do you know that equipment that was being paid for by Medicare through hospice does not stay with you when you go out of hospice, such as the Broda chair Mom had? This means in a few days time we had no chair for Mom to transfer to that was safe for her. A regular wheelchair is not appropriate for someone like Mom. The Broda chair Mom had was being paid for through hospice, it was now used, but we could not just buy that one for a discount or anything, we would have to buy a new Broda chair for $5,000. Dad found a used, slightly adjustable wheelchair for Mom like this one but we quickly found out that you can't just put anyone into any wheelchair, it needs to fit them properly. Skin breakdown and bed sores are very common for patients like Mom but leading up to this time she had only one little spot that looked irritated which we quickly fixed. As soon as we had to start putting Mom in wheelchairs that were not the right fit for her, she started getting skin breakdown. It took over a month of research and calling around to find out how we could actually get Mom a proper wheelchair through insurance because they are too expensive out of pocket. 


4. Do you know that most home health agencies do not employ caregivers who are able to help with things like bathing a patient or caregivers who know how to use equipment like a Hoyer lift or who have training in medical care at all? Hospice comes in and does this but once hospice leaves it is very hard to find enough replacement caregivers who can do more of the personal and medical care. 


5. Do you know that no matter who good your care coordination team is that the medical system is so convoluted it can be nearly impossible to figure out how to navigate the system to actually get what your loved one needs? My Dad is a doctor, we have friends in the medical field, we have Mom's doctors, we know many people who work in assisted living facilities and nursing homes, we even have Care Coordinators, and still it has been extremely difficult to get Mom what she needs. Hospice knows how to get through the hospice billing system to get supplies but once you are out of that, the same rules no longer apply and they can't advise you on how to get what you need. Nursing homes and living facilities get their supplies through other systems and can't advise on how to get help for someone living at home. None of the systems overlap and so even the best people have a hard time figuring out how to help.

Basically, the whole system is frustrating and it is very easy to get angry. Not only with the system but sometimes with the people helping you because you expect someone to know how to navigate the system. In reality though, our medical care system is so confusing that few people know how to work with it in any given special situation. So, be patient and compassionate with each other as you work to care for your loved one.

What has been your experience with going from being in hospice to out?

Blessings,

Rev. Katie

Difficulties of Home Care

We now have hired caregivers in the house 24 hours a day, plus Mom is in hospice so we have nurses aids coming twice a week and a nurse once a week. They are all fantastic people and Kendal at Home is working hard to coordinate our caregivers from Caringtree and the aids and nurses from Hospice of the Western Reserve. The problem is that providing care in the home is difficult. Actually, providing good care at home or in an institution is difficult too, but for different reasons. So, let's talk about some of the issues in home health care and how to manage them.

The first thing is that hiring a caregiver from any of the home health agencies does not mean you are getting a medical professional. These caregivers are great but some may only know how to do tasks like grocery shop, cook, and clean. Others may only be companions. When your loved one gets sicker, like Mom, you really need to explain exactly what you need in order to get the right person. The problem is, most of us do not know what we need as we are not doctors or nurses ourselves. Fortunately my Dad is a doctor and so he notices when someone is feeding Mom too fast and she could aspirate or choke. Dad and I have both been in hospitals enough to know Mom needs to be turned every two hours to prevent breakdown of her skin (bed sores). She also needs fluids every few hours and must have her incontinence briefs changed. She has to be lifted out of the bed with people trained on how to use a Hoyer lift. She really needs constant supervision and medical aid for her tasks of daily living (toileting, cleaning, and eating) and these need to be done in a way that are safe for her which means you need medical training.

When a family calls a home health agency for help, we assume since this is their profession they can assess the situation and know exactly what needs to be done and the skill level needed for the caregivers. This is not true. And, that is not saying anything against the agency. I think what is happening is that home health care is new, there are few regulations, and they are figuring out how to get everyone trained for every possible situation within the federal regulations of what kind of care non-medical professionals can provide.

Hoyer lift in Mom's room. We now have a hospital bed for her.

So, here are some of the things I suggest you ask in order to get the right caregivers in your home. Help the home health agency figure out if you need a caregiver, nurses aid, or nurse because they are all different. A caregiver can feed someone who can not feed themselves, but they may not be trained to feed people who have difficulty swallowing and could aspirate like a nurse would be trained to do.

1. If your loved one can't feed or drink for themselves ask if the caregiver has been trained for proper feeding of people with swallowing difficulties. Does the caregiver know how to avoid aspiration of foods and liquids and what do they do if it happens or the person chokes?
2. If you have equipment in the home, will there be at least one caregiver on duty who knows how to use the equipment at all times. Have them show you how they use it, and practice on you, not your loved one. Mom got dropped out of the Hoyer a few times. 
3. Ask questions like: How often will you be changing her briefs? (should be every two hours or when soiled) How often will you turn and reposition him? (should be every two hours) How will you engage with her when she is non-responsive yet awake? (They should read to them, talk with them, play music for them, engage with them, not just let them sit in a chair or bed.)
4. Always watch all new caregivers perform all tasks before you leave them alone with your loved one. Each situation is different and your parent, friend, or child deserves personal care so make sure the care is tailored to their needs.
5. Always kindly ask for what you need and never feel like you ask too many questions. These agencies really want to care for your loved one well and with dignity but this really is a new area for all of us so they are open to feedback and working together with you.
6. Thank your caregivers when they do something well. Let the coordinator of the home health care agency know when the caregivers have gone above and beyond.
7. Don't panic! One or even a few mismatched caregivers does not mean you will never find the right ones. It takes an adjustment period but it will work out. 

Our experience has shown me that communication is key. We trust that the organizations we are working with are good people who really care about Mom, and that is important. If you feel they don't, then find a different group.  Fortunately for us, the people we are working with are great and trying to get Mom the best care possible. As we have found good matches for caregivers, some of them have brought music for Mom to listen to, talk with her, Mom has NO bed sores (this is amazing), they advocate on her behalf if they think a new caregiver might not be a good fit or if we all need more training on some new medical equipment.

While it may be stressful at times, our little army of people keeps talking in order to find out what is best. And every time families and home health agencies work together, the more we learn and can create a better system for everyone going forward.

Blessings,

Rev. Katie