|Julia as Belle, 2010|
When we honor and remember what Mom used to be able to do and when we incorporate the things she has made into our lives today, we are keeping Mom’s memory alive. We remind her of what she has done in her life, and we let her know how much those things mean to us.
The costume my niece Julia wore is a Belle costume from Beauty and the Beast. Belle is my and Julia’s favorite Disney princess. I wore that costume for Halloween, and then in college I wore it while I worked at the Disney store and I created “Story Time with Belle” at the mall. Not only are our lives touched by that costume of a character we love, but so were many children’s lives because they loved story time with Belle. They would draw me pictures and thank Belle for reading to them.
When Julia wrote to us and sent us the photos, she made Mom very happy. Mom saw just how much she contributes to this world, even now that her abilities have changed.
The inner spirit of who we are lives on through the people who keep those memories going. Maybe it is our job now, as Mom is losing her abilities and memory, to help keep her spirit alive by enjoying the past and reminiscing with her.
Mom often talks about feeling worthless now that she can not do things like she used to. She feels like her inner spirit is lost. We can help her find herself again by the ways in which we honor who she is and all the things she has done for us.
|Story time with Belle, 1999|